Should You Sign a Prenuptial Agreement Before Getting Married?
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Should You Sign a Prenuptial Agreement Before Getting Married?

We weigh the financial protection and legal clarity of prenups against the trust issues and emotional costs they can bring to a relationship.

This article presents 2 perspectives — read both to form your own view.
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Margaret Holloway

Estate Planning Attorney

A Prenuptial Agreement Is One of the Smartest Legal Moves You Can Make

Talking about prenuptial agreements used to be taboo. Bringing one up felt like you were predicting the marriage would fail before it even started. That stigma is fading fast. Today, a prenup is less about expecting divorce and more about being a financially mature adult who understands what is at stake.

More Americans than ever are entering marriage with assets, business interests, student debt, and retirement savings they have spent years building. A prenuptial agreement protects those efforts. It is not a plan for failure. It is a plan for clarity.

Prenup Adoption Is Rising Sharply, and for Good Reason

The numbers tell a clear story. A Harris Poll survey found that 15% of married or engaged Americans had signed a prenuptial agreement in 2022, compared to just 3% in 2010. That is a fivefold increase in a single decade. Millennials are driving this trend, and they are not signing prenups because they expect their marriages to fail. They are signing them because they understand money, assets, and legal risk better than any previous generation.

Over 62% of divorce attorneys reported seeing an increase in clients requesting prenups in recent years. These are the professionals who spend their careers in courtrooms watching what happens when couples do not plan ahead. When lawyers tell you to get a prenup, that is worth listening to.

Who Is Getting PrenupsPercentage Reporting Increase
Millennial couples62% attorney-reported uptick
Second marriagesHigh adoption rate due to prior asset accumulation
Business ownersNear-universal recommendation from legal counsel
Couples with student debtRapidly growing segment seeking debt isolation

Think of a prenup like homeowner's insurance. You do not buy it because you think your house will burn down. You buy it because you are responsible and the financial exposure is enormous if something goes wrong.

What a Prenup Actually Protects

A well-drafted prenuptial agreement can cover a remarkable range of financial and legal territory. Here is what most couples use them for in practice.

Business ownership protection. If you own a company or equity in a startup, a prenup can shield that value from division in a divorce. Without one, your spouse may be entitled to a share of your business just because you were married while it grew. Studies suggest prenups protect up to 85% of business value in divorce proceedings when properly drafted.

Student loan debt separation. More than 43 million Americans carry student loan debt. A prenup can specify that the debt one partner brought into the marriage stays with that partner. It isolates student debt in about 70% of prenup agreements written today. That is a significant financial protection, especially when one partner carries six-figure loans from medical or law school.

Retirement account clarity. Retirement accounts are among the most contested assets in divorce proceedings. Prenups shield retirement assets in 95% of cases where they are explicitly addressed in the agreement. Without that protection, a court can order the division of your 401(k) even if your spouse never contributed a single dollar to it.

Inheritance and family property. If you expect to inherit significant assets from your parents or grandparents, a prenup ensures those funds are treated as separate property. This is especially important for family businesses, real estate, and heirlooms that have sentimental and financial value far beyond their market price.

Asset CategoryRisk Without PrenupProtection With Prenup
Business ownershipCould be split 50/50Up to 85% protected
Student loan debtMay become shared liabilityIsolated in 70% of cases
Retirement accountsSubject to QDRO divisionProtected in 95% of cases
Inherited propertyAt risk without clear titleDesignated as separate property
Real estateCommunity property in many statesIndividually assigned

The Legal Framework Is Stronger Than You Think

A common objection to prenups is the assumption that courts will just throw them out anyway. That concern is overblown when the agreement is properly drafted.

The Uniform Premarital Agreement Act (UPAA), adopted in some form by the majority of US states, provides a clear legal standard for enforceable prenups. Courts have consistently upheld agreements that meet four basic requirements:

  • Both parties signed voluntarily without coercion or duress
  • Full financial disclosure was provided by both sides
  • The agreement is in writing and executed before the wedding
  • Both parties had time to review the document with independent counsel

Courts rarely invalidate prenups that meet these standards. The cases where prenups fail typically involve someone who signed under pressure two days before the wedding, or where one party hid assets. A properly prepared agreement, signed months before the wedding with both parties represented by attorneys, is extremely durable.

Prenups Can Actually Strengthen Relationships

Here is something counterintuitive. The process of negotiating a prenup forces couples to have difficult conversations about money, expectations, and values before they get married. Research in relationship psychology consistently shows that financial disagreements are among the leading causes of divorce. Getting those conversations out in the open before the wedding can defuse landmines that would otherwise explode years later.

64% of Americans in a LawDepot survey said they believe prenups are suitable for everyone, regardless of wealth. That consensus reflects a growing maturity in how Americans think about marriage as both an emotional and a financial partnership.

When you sit down to draft a prenup, you learn things about your partner that you might not discover otherwise. What do they consider theirs versus ours? What are their attitudes toward debt? How do they think about retirement? These are conversations worth having before you are legally bound to each other.

A prenup is not a sign of distrust. It is a sign that you trust each other enough to be honest about the hard stuff. And that kind of honesty is exactly what lasting marriages are built on.

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